When you are grieving the loss of a loved one, the responsibility of planning their funeral can be overwhelming. We at Batemans Bay, Moruya and Narooma Funerals are here to help you, every step of the way. Together, we can create a beautiful and lasting tribute to your loved one.
We encourage you to involve your family so that each of you may share your thoughts and ideas for the funeral. Inviting everyone, including children, to help plan or take part in the service, shows them that their feelings matter too.
This time, is one to be understanding of each other’s needs. You are all experiencing grief and loss in your own way – be gentle and accept each other’s feelings.
You may have the challenge of balancing your loved one’s wishes with your own needs as mourners – it is okay to put the needs of your family first. Look to fulfil the essence of their wishes, not the specific details.
Allow yourself time – you may feel you have to put the funeral behind you as quickly as possible. This is not so and we encourage you to rethink this approach. Sometimes the funeral is seen as a painful experience and there is a need to simply want it over. Understand that the loss of your loved one has caused the pain. The funeral can and should be the instigator of your healing. In deciding on a day and time for the funeral, ensure you have allowed enough time to consider and carry out all your preferred options.
Considerations that may require additional time are:
When a death occurs, there is a legal obligation to register the death with the Registrar of Births, Deaths and Marriages in that state. As part of the process of registering the death, the Registrar asks for the following information:
Please assemble this information prior to meeting with our Funeral Arranger.
If you or the person who has died attended a church or other place of worship, this may be the natural choice for the funeral service. This is particularly appropriate when a family wishes to arrange a service of traditional religious significance, such as a funeral mass.
Possible venues are only limited by your imagination and can include:
If you choose a venue other than a church, a member of the clergy, or, if you prefer, a celebrant, can be arranged to officiate at the ceremony.
Some points to consider when choosing the venue for the funeral service
Create a funeral that reflects the unique and special qualities of your loved one by adding some personal touches. Here are a few suggestions:
As part of the funeral arrangements you will have the option of whether to purchase a coffin or a casket for the deceased.
What is the difference between a Casket and a Coffin?
The difference is basically one of design.
Coffins are tapered at the head and foot and are wide at the shoulders. Caskets are rectangular in shape and are usually constructed of better quality timbers and feature higher standards of workmanship. Many people regard the coffin or casket as an important tribute to the deceased and they are therefore selected with care.
If you wish you may also personalise the coffin.
Batemans Bay, Moruya and Narooma Funerals’ range of coffins extend from Eco friendly, personalised, solid timber to a more traditional coffin in a wide range of colours and finishes.
Our aim is to help you choose a coffin that echoes the life and ideals on your loved one so that a necessity begins to hold meaning and value.
The wishes of the deceased must be followed, if they are known. A cremation cannot take place if there are written instructions to the contrary.
The numbers of people choosing to be cremated are steadily increasing – cremations now outnumber burials. Cremation funerals are much higher in city areas where crematory facilities are available. In regional area burials tend to predominate.
People have a choice of either burial or cremation. In certain cultures cremation is not favoured (or may be prohibited within the relevant faith belief). In other cultures the opposite may occur with cremation being the custom.
Choosing a Cremation
There is no necessity in law to inter the ashes or keep them in an urn. You may wish to:
This is a decision that doesn’t need to be made straight away. Your funeral director or the crematorium will give you a range of options when you’re ready to discuss this which may be some weeks after the funeral service.
If you are arranging a burial, you may already know the cemetery that is to be used. The cemetery plot may even have been pre-purchased.
Feel free to drive through the cemeteries in your area. You will see the different choices within them, such as:
Batemans Bay, Moruya and Narooma Funerals can assist you in making the choices for your loved one.
There is no one ‘right’ way to hold a funeral. A funeral should simply ‘reflect’ the person who died and the family and friends who survive that person. To help you in your planning, the list below is the most often asked-for formats for a funeral.
Who will lead the Service?
If you or a loved one has an association with a church, your clergy will be the obvious choice. You may not have attended a church for many years but would still appreciate a clergy person to officiate at the service. Our Funeral Arranger can easily arrange this. Or you may prefer a celebrant to lead the service which can also be arranged for you.
You or the person who has died may already know the clergy or celebrant. However, this is often not the case and it will be important for the clergy or celebrant and your family to meet and discuss the life of your loved one, the ceremony and your wants and needs.
The term “viewing” describes the time mourners spend with the deceased person after death and before the funeral.
The body is present in an open coffin or casket, allowing you and others who loved the person the chance to say goodbye and to come to terms with the reality and finality of the death. It allows you to see that the one who has died is now at peace, especially if they were struggling or suffering with life.
The decision to view is an individual one. Mourners should not be prevented from viewing, nor should they be forced to do so.
If possible, try not to leave the viewing till the day of the funeral. Allow enough days between the death and the day of the service to benefit from the viewing.
Dressing your Loved One
What your loved one will wear can be an important part of saying goodbye. The choice of clothing is yours and should reflect the wishes and personality of your loved one.
The deceased can wear their own clothes and if doing so, remember to include underwear and shoes. Alternatively they can wear a gown known as a shroud or a breasting which is a head to toe dignity cover
We will arrange for hair and make up to be done – supplying their own makeup and a recent photo can be of assistance. You will also need to decide on whether jewellery is to be worn and also other items such as Rosary Beads.
Select flowers that were meaningful to your loved one. This is an important aspect of a funeral as the coffin or casket adorned with a thoughtfully selected floral tribute provides a key focal point of the funeral service.
You will need to decide whether you want people to send flowers or not. Today, it is increasing popular for families to request “no flowers”, instead opting to encourage mourners to send donations to a charity in lieu of flowers.
It is also important to think about what will be done with the collection of flowers after the service – sometimes the flowers are given to the nursing facility where the deceased was cared for.